As of 2024, 66% of U.S. households (86.9 million homes) own a pet. Over one third of Americans (35%) have more than one pet. As pet lovers and owners, we all know someone, if not ourselves, that has more than one pet that has been together since they were quite young. This is what could be known as a bonded pair. A bonded pair will depend on each other in different ways;
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They tend to wait for the other one to eat and make sure the other one is getting food/treats; they often share food and toys.
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They show signs of affection such as cleaning the ears, licking the face, etc.
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They have lived together for an extended period of time.
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They might get particularly stressed or anxious when they are separated for any reason.
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They feel the need to play a role among each other, dominance or submissive.
As pet owners, we might see this as a relationship that just happens and is natural. This may be, but is each pet living a fulfilling life? How is your bond with each pet? The time will come when one has to live without the other. Or an unfortunate event might happen that will leave them having to live apart.
There are a few simple things that can be done to enhance the quality of your pack for you and each pet.
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Train each pet individually. Take the time to work with only one pet at a time.
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Separate walks and playtime.
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Discover individual “jobs” for each pet according to their strengths and enjoyment. e.g. going to get the mail, car rides to the gas station, pet store visits, any regular activity that can include your pet.
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Taking turns for affection. e.g. cuddling, grooming, sleeping
Take the time to find out what your pets’ strengths and weaknesses are. This will also create a bond between the 2 of you and build confidence in your pet.
This does not mean that your pets can’t be great companions. This will help with their current relationship and help them to establish a well balanced healthy pack with your guidance.
All too often a bonded pair will find themselves needing a new home. Rehoming one pet is a tall order let alone a pair, if your pets are individualized the chances for a safe, comfortable transition into a new home will be better for everyone involved.
Chastity Crowder, Cofounder and Fospice Mom